Tips for Wearing All Black, Pattern Mixing, Letting Go of Maternity Wear

People say black is slimming, but guess what, it's only half true! The color black (especially in matte fabrics) does absorb light, which camouflages the user's lumps and bumps, yes. But it also can make you look completely 2D if worn incorrectly. Why is it a bummer to be 2D? Because you end up looking like the overall silhouette (which can sometimes be pretty boxy if you're layering all your black on) and you loose all the highlights and lowlights that show off your shape. And everyone's shape is worth showing!

So how can you layer on the black and not loose yourself in there? Play with texture. Mix it up! A black cardigan over a black velvet top with black faux leather pants. A black blazer over a silkie black blouse with blacks jeans. A black tee shirt with metallic fleck and a black sweater vest with black crepe pants. A black matte dress with a black leather moto jacket. Notice how each piece is a different texture? It helps you not loose your shape, any lengthening effects you're gaining from your finishing pieces, and not loose your leg line in separates (which lengthens us as well). See examples for more ideas!

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This week let's talk tips for pattern mixing. I go into a lot of detail in the podcast, but here are my top two tips.

1) Mix feminine with masculine: Examples include floral with stripes, dots with plaid, nature print with houndstooth.

2) Mix pattern size: Try to keep the sizes different. For example a large floral with a small stripe. If you get brave and want to mix two kinds of the same pattern be sure to mix up the sizes! Large graphic floral is super fun with a small more realistic floral.

MomStyle Must-Have

This one is quick and simple...if you're done having babies and you're a few years out from your last kiddo it's time to let go of the maternity wear. I know it's comfy, but it's doing you ZERO favors, it's keeping you from having space for grown woman clothes, and I'm sure it could find a home with a pregnant woman out there who needs it.

I realize you might have special feelings about some of this specialized mom gear (I accidentally sold the shirt I went to the hospital in at a garage sale and didn't realize it until it was walking away...and cried a bunch). But if you must keep it for this reason get it out of your work closet and into a keepsake box. That is all! #truthbomb

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Styling Yourself After Change, Peplums, and Block Heels

Change can come in many forms in our lives, causing us to either want to or need to update our style and the image we present the world. It can come in the form of physical changes (motherhood, weight loss, weight gain, illness, normal aging processes), mindset changes (catching your style up to a new way of thinking or presenting yourself to the world), or location changes (starting a new business, graduating, retiring, career changes, moving to a different climate). Learning how to style yourself through big changes is SUPER personal, but I talked about a few tips in my podcast this week that can help you style yourself through this transition.

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1) Trust your gut (and try it on): Okay, this only works if you get out into the world and try things on (you CAN do it!), but most women know what they like. Media and society makes us constantly question our beliefs, values, and thoughts about our style, among other things, but when you try something on in the mirror check in with yourself. You! You know if you like it or not. YOU liking it is the first step in feeling confident in that item. And YOU feeling confident is the key to everything, which I blab about constantly. Trust your gut through these changes, whatever they are. Almost every client I've had has better style instincts than she gives herself credit for. That doesn't mean a stylist isn't helpful or fun. We definitely will point you towards things you would have never tried, but feel amazing in. It just means you should give your own gut more credit.

2) Map out your goals for the future, specifically the next 5-years: I've spoken about this in this podcast and this blog post, but knowing who you'd be in 5-years with absolute success (whatever that looks like for you) is key to styling yourself because that's exactly how you should be dressing NOW. How does that women enter a room, how does she feel about herself, what are the positive adjectives people will use to describe her? Now just play the part, babe! Cause it's you and seeing yourself as her will make you step up to those goals. Promise, this stuff is powerful!

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This week's trend was peplums, and in-particular drop peplums. The peplum that, instead of riding fitted at the waist, flows out a bit and peplums out closer to the hip. This can look boxy on some, but surprisingly I've had some curvy clients try these on and fall in love. And so do I! It makes sense. Their curves bring these tops to life. More in the podcast! Give it a listen and a review if you love it.

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This week I spoke about block heels and how they are a great way to dip your toe (heh, get it?) into the heel pool if you've never dared while mumming. I'm not saying that you should head to the park in them, or wear them everyday, but if you want something in a heel that looks super polished and adorable, and can go from work or client meetings to a school event, and STILL is comfy, stable, and easy to chase a kid in I suggest a block heel. Here's a pic of my favs right now from Caslon, which I found at Nordstrom Rack.

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3-Ways to Get Ready Faster in the Morning

This week I tackled the 3-ways you can make mornings faster and less stressful. Let's get to it!

1) CLEAN OUT YOUR CLOSET! You can learn more in this podcast and in this blog post, so I'll just get to the benefits of this life altering exercise that I do routinely once a season. It will decrease the eye clutter in your closet and decrease the amount of clothing you have to sift through in your mind before you land on something the fits, feels good, looks good.

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2) LEARN TO SHOP! Shopping might not be your jam and I talk about that in this podcast and this blog post (and even teach you how to shop like a PRO in this e-course), but I urge you to get out and at least try things on before you commit to shapes and colors bought online. I get into so many closets every year and see things with tags on them and ask, "What's this about?!" Why are these items bought if they aren't being worn?! Because when they come in the mail you are far less likely to return them if they don't quite fit or aren't exactly what you thought they'd be - and companies bank on this fact. So demand more from your purchases. I go into far more detail in my e-course, but items should check ALL of these boxes: fit, shape, color, comfort, budget, and buddy (all items need a buddy in your closet).

3) PLAN YOUR OUTFIT THE NIGHT BEFORE! I can't tell you how many rushed mornings I've had trying to plan my outfit around my day with a child pulling on my PJs asking for cartoons and milk. Plan the night before and it will GREATLY decrease stress in the morning, whether or not you have a little turkey waking you up. Trust me. I hang ALL the items I plan on wearing on one small rack on the back of my door (you could use a few hangers or one), including the bra, underwear, outfit, and accessories I plan on wearing. I make a mental note of where the shoes are I'm going to wear with it, or just set them below the outfit. DONE! It takes 5 minutes, ladies. Try it!

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Budget Friendly Wardrobe Updates, Ruffles, and Vests

One podcast this week (I post two now!) featured a question from my Facebook Style Support Group about updating a wardrobe on a budget, how to deal with the ruffle trend that is still hot, and a MomStyle Must-have that reminds me of Chandler from Friends.

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What's the cheapest, easiest way to update a wardrobe is with accessories, finishing pieces, and shoes. K, bye! That's all! Okay, there's a little more to it than that. Chances are you can build hundreds of basic outfits by mixing and matching the clothing you have already have in your closet. Add a few updated finishing pieces (jackets, cardigans, vests) and some new accessories the outfits multiply over and over.

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This episodes trend is ruffles, a polarizing trend to say the least. It seems they are sticking at least through Spring/Summer 2018 so here are a few tips for using them or knowing when to decide they just aren't for you. They've been used lately a lot on blouses, sweatshirts, and various other tops which can make it rough(le) because it adds so much volume to the top half of you. If you're like me (more athletic on the bottom half) the addition of some interest and volume on my top half is welcome as it balances my frame. Though if you tend to stress about looking broad on top due to a bigger bust or wider shoulders, the added volume and interest is likely unwelcome. This has been the case with EVERY gal I've taken shopping who commented on how many ruffle tops we saw. It's funny how we can zero in and see only one thing when we get annoyed by it, isn't it? 

Tip: Know the shapes you love on you and focus you're gaze on finding those pieces. If you let all the other items take up space and emotional capacity in your brain you'll get overwhelmed shopping.

MomStyle Must-Haves

Vests! This topic had me giggling on the podcast this week as the word "vest" immediately brings up images of Chandler from Friends for this 90s kid. Ha! But seriously, I'm loving the effortless style vibes that the duster length (approximately knee length) sweater vests out now are giving off. I made it my MomStyle Must-Have this week because it's just SO SIMPLE to toss these on over a tee and jeans and look put together! Along with that it leaves your arms unencumbered to deal with spit-up, sippy cups, bike crashes, paint projects, pick-ups, soccer gear toting, while still looking chic and adding a light layer in the Spring. The long line they create is awesome too. Basically, they make you look a little taller. And who doesn't love that?!

Alright, loves! Have a magical week! And don't forget to subscribe to the podcast so it automatically pops up in your favorite podcast app.

Making Morning Dressing Easier, Cinderella Shoes, and Mom Closet Hack

What's the hardest part of styling yourself? Getting out of bed and put the clothes on. Seriously. If you're waking up and putting something other than PJs on then you are already doing the hardest part! Doesn't that feel great to know?!

Now that you're already putting something other than PJs on to leave the house or feel productive the next step is putting some intention behind what you're putting on. It takes just as long to put on any old thing than it does to put on something you've chosen with intention! So, the only thing you have to put into action is the intention part. That's the only addition of time to your routine. 

My best suggestion, as always, is to pick out what you'd like to wear the following day the night before and I even found a closet hack to help you accomplish this even easier that is addressed in the MomStyle Must-have segment.

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This weeks trend is "Cinderella Shoes", a term used recently by Harper's Bazaar to describe a flashy statement shoe that will be worn a lot this Spring and Summer. Of course, the flashier the show the more you have to balance it, especially for daytime, or it ends up looking over-worked and too nighttime. So for daytime, let the flashy shoe be the star by keeping everything else simple, well-fitting, and fairly neutral to balance out the shine. You could even down play the outfit a bit, for example, wearing a shiny silver shoe with distressed cuffed jeans.


MomStyle Must-Have

This week I didn't gravitate towards a wearable item, but rather an item that helps you organize your outfits for the following day (remember how I told you to pick out your outfits the night before?). An over the door closet bar, as pictured, is a perfect way to expand your closet a bit more or you can use it like I do, to hang EVERYTHING you're going to wear the following day. Outfit, finishing pieces, coat, jewelry, even under garments! All ready to go so in the morning (when a certain little person is pulling on my PJs say "mama let's go watch cartoons!) I don't have to try to think about what I'm going to wear to drop off, a client meeting, and for the video later that day. It's already done for me by past me. Thank you, past me! Now where's the coffee!